one thing i learned and immediately applied to most of my conversations is consciously stopping after you’ve provided a sufficient response, don’t try to squeeze in all the details possible into that one response, let the conversation naturally lead there (a lot of times it won’t and that’s fine) but when it does, you have a clearly laid out response; trying this out in real life after years of trying to fit in as much information into a back and forth, and wondering why it’s almost like a one sided conversation, it made a huge difference, more times than not, the conversation usually went that direction, this ensures whoever i’m speaking to is on the same page as me.
the more time goes by, the fight for personal digital privacy is looking less about privacy from others in your life, and more about companies that sell your data to show you things you might actually want, i understand how this statement (some might have been triggered by now and say it’s an argument, maybe) may seem; both are the end goal but a company that knows everything about me is less likely to hurt me more personally, the wrong person in my life seeing just 1% of that data can possibly cause me more harm; the road towards this sort of privacy is a lonely and very individualistic one; as the other is more robust, even if most people will never care to acknowledge the latter their entire lifetime; they will be influenced by it daily without them sparing a thought.
it’s a beautiful thing when you throw jokes like these to your future self, this is some time in the past, my past self (my present self)—damn this is really past me, this is me, i’m here, speaking to you from the past, word vomit that looks back to you many years from now, do you recognize when you were this exact person? or are these just distant memories of someone you never knew.
thing about old friends is most of them, especially after long jumps in time, love a version of me that no longer exists; this person they care so much about only exists in their head, this further dilutes.
ever seen a successful person and be like “damn, so that’s all it took” meanwhile you’re trying to master the entire craft in your head for years without putting out any tangible work.
so much stuff can be done in the background; focusing on that is equally as important as the flashy stuff, it feels more like a very solid foundation, less of a facade.
it’s okay to keep people’s opinions off stuff because depending on your brain type, you will think of that opinion everytime you see/experience that thing, good or bad—is it worth the corrupted experience you already enjoy without thus opinions?
in a conversation there’s a lot that will go unheard if there isn’t an actively listening party, expressing this vast unique experience as words is hard enough, acknowledging everyone is not aware of this crafting process done by their mind, or care about it. It’s important to remember when someone shares their thoughts, a lot of the time, it’s like they are introducing you into their world at that point in time, now unless their train of thought is cut, theres little that will make them pause and look at you unless they detect you see a bit of this world they’ve painted for you with their words, body movements, actions.
life is a game and there are too many good players stuck at their favorite level.
you’re not that important, learn to shut off the world (if your current situation allows), do the work, and come back. Repeat. Never lose yourself in the world because a lot of the results come from the work you did when you shut off the world, that should be a warning to avoid failure - note to self